Women are actually very easy to understand

“Women are actually very easy to understand…”

That is a pretty bold claim coming from any 25-year-old man, especially when he is telling this to another 29-year-old man.

Last Friday, I met up with SC over beer and dinner at Nabins to catch up at an Arabian restaurant for youngsters. (I think I was in the top 10% of the age demographic there)

Talking to SC is always enlightening because he says things that you never thought of and would not expect from someone like him.

According to Myer Briggs Type Indicator (MBTI), which we both did the personality test together; he is supposed to be an ISTJ, which is an introvert - “ISTJs are quiet and reserved individuals who are interested in security and peaceful living”.

What he has done so far

Updating me on his life, he has just quit his new job after 3 months because he was too bored being a client (he joined from an advertising agency) and started his own freelancing.

He purposely screwed up his new relationship by ‘confessing’ (that’s what he calls it) to his girlfriend on how he actually felt about their relationship because she was beginning to talk to him about their future.

He told me he has relationship commitment issue and would freak out whenever a woman talks to him about the future. He even asked me if it is wrong of him to promise a woman everything she asked, and then use it to ‘confess’ that he don’t really mean it when he wants to break up. (he use this trick quite often)

I think I punched him. (No, I am kidding, why would I do that? He is so funny)

Based on his morals (yes, he still has some left somewhere), he felt it is wrong to waste a woman’s youth and ‘park’ too long in their life. He felt it is right to end things quickly when he is not serious about it.

He says he felt painful too whenever he ends a relationship, although I am not sure which part of the body the pain comes from.

To him ‘Love’ is a concept that is being invented and Shakespeare was the one who invented it. According to him, ‘Love’ is a trend that is invented and accepted by so many people that it becomes the norm.

What he is doing now

SC is now something of a mini-guru because he is writing a book to be published, conducting workshops and speaking at conferences. No, he is not a dating guru like those that you (referring to men only) are searching online. He is a tech guy.

Women are actually very easy to understand

I know you men must have skipped the middle passages to look for the answer and you don’t really care who SC is as a person.

The principle is actually pretty simple to write, only one sentence. He said,

“Women are always looking for meaning in everything.”

Ok I know you men must be like “HUH?”

Don’t worry if you think you need more explanation on this life-saving principle, I can always arrange a meeting between you and SC for a small fee.

I think I finally almost understand women

After SC said that, I think I am really on my way to almost understanding women.

Now I think I can understand why whenever I asked a woman question, they would always reply my question with another question.

That is because they are looking for meaning in my question, although I am not too sure why.

However after replying my question with a question, and then I reply their question with a question like “why can’t you just answer my question?” They would always accuse me of being overconfident.

One day, I decided to ask a member of the female race, why does this same scenario keep repeating in my life. She said that’s because the problem lies with me.

HUH? ……